Every penny we spend on the Churchyard has to come from fundraising: we receive no money from the local council, government or the central church. If you would like to help us, please see our Finance pages under the "More" heading in the menu bar, above.
In 2021, our annual Commemoration of the Faithful Departed, known as All Souls Day, is on Tuesday 2nd November. A candle order form can be found here. All are welcome to Mass here, and the sung Mass for All Souls will be at 7.30pm on that Tuesday. You can email Father Dane to ask for individuals to be remembered at the Mass.
Funerals at St Mary's
Please see below for Churchyard information
The first step when booking is a funeral is usually to consult a Funeral Director.
If you would like a funeral in St Mary's then they will contact us to arrange a suitable time.
We offer funerals to everyone who lived in our parish at the time they died, or else those who died in our parish.
We bury ashes in the churchyard. We don't scatter: ashes are buried either loose or in a biodegradable container either in an existing grave or in a new ashes plot. We allow an ashes tablet of 12" x 12" in a mid-grey colour. To find out more about the interment of ashes, or to book a service, you need to come along on a Sunday after the 10am Mass.
You need to apply for permission to bury ashes:
It is unlawful for you to bury or scatter ashes in a churchyard, burial ground or any other place
without the permission of the landowner and payment of any statutory or other fees.
All interments in our churchyard require the full permission of the Vicar and the use of the Church's rites,
anything else constitutes unlawful disposal of remains and the Church will take action accordingly.
We pray each day for those who have died,
do let us know if you would like us
to pray for someone, which we will do
whether or not their funeral will be at St Mary's.
St Mary's has the only burial ground in Swanley. We accept for burial anyone who lived in the Church of England parish of Swanley at the time of their death, was a member of St Mary's electoral roll (that's not the same roll used for voting) or who died in the Church of England parish of Swanley. We do not accept for burial, nor is it possible to reserve a plot in the churchyard for, anyone who does not meet these criteria.
In order to have any memorial, or any item on a grave, it is necessary to seek permission.
Plots in the Churchyard
cannot be bought
No matter when someone was buried in the churchyard, ownership remains with the Church.
The Vicar can only
allow a small range
If you would like something he cannot allow, then you can apply for permission from the diocese of Rochester. This is called a faculty. This will only be granted if it is in keeping with the Church's rules.
The Churchyard Regulations
The Churchyard Regulations govern what you are allowed. Please see the yellow button above to click for a copy of the regulations.